Those who flatter their neighbors are spreading nets for their feet. Proverbs 29:5
Flattery can briefly be described as “insincere praise with an ulterior motive.” In short, it’s a lie masquerading as a compliment. It’s given with a selfish motive. It is praise that is unearned.
A compliment on the other hand builds up a person and encourages the person to strive towards morality and goodness. It’s never given out of selfish motives, and always given for the betterment of the person.
I am finding out that children today need much encouragement. I can think of no greater compliment than to praise a child for good behavior or accomplishments. There’s just too much emphasis today on the negative.
Find a child today and compliment him/her on what he’s/she’s done. Go out of your way to do it.