16 Then they moved on from Bethel. While they were still some distance from Ephrath, Rachel began to give birth and had great difficulty. 17 And as she was having great difficulty in childbirth, the midwife said to her, “Don’t despair, for you have another son.” 18 As she breathed her last—for she was dying—she named her son Ben-Oni. But his father named him Benjamin.
19 So Rachel died and was buried on the way to Ephrath (that is, Bethlehem). 20 Over her tomb Jacob set up a pillar, and to this day that pillar marks Rachel’s tomb. Genesis 35:16-20
Rachel was Jacob’s favorite wife, it seems. It’s the lady he wanted before he was tricked into marrying her sister. First his mother’s nurse/teacher passed away, and not long after, his wife passed away. That’s not an easy burden to bear. Yes, Benjamin was born, but he lost his wife during the birth. It’s the very definition of having mixed emotions.
And yet, he still had his family to take care of. Of course they were older now. Joseph would be mourning his mother, and Benjamin would grow up without his birth mother.
Life gets complicated, doesn’t it? All of Jacob’s kids grew up in what we would call a seriously dysfunctional family. As we’ll see tomorrow, it gets worse.
Every one reading this knows about dysfunctional families. Perhaps you are living in one now. You may even be the biggest dysfunction of the family!
Unfortunately, until Christ comes to rescue us from all this mess, we’re stuck with it.
You can’t change it all, but you can pray and ask God to change some of it. He can do it; only He can do it.
A better prayer, perhaps, is that you will have the grace to accept it as it is, that is, if it’s not harmful or dangerous.
If your family grates on you, then just maybe you need to adapt.