Sarah lived to be a hundred and twenty-seven years old. 2 She died at Kiriath Arba (that is, Hebron) in the land of Canaan, and Abraham went to mourn for Sarah and to weep over her. Genesis 23:1-2
Abraham and Sarah were married for about 75 years. They went through a lot during that period. Their marriage from our standpoint wasn’t exactly stellar. Sarah was obedient and loyal to a fault, but she also had ideas of her own to fulfill God’s promise. Abraham, on the other hand, showed his cowardice at least twice and was willing to sacrifice her virtue for his own safety.
Still, they lived with and loved each other for 75 long years. His grief would have been great. He was entitled to mourn and weep over her.
Never forget that these are real stories about real people who had real and raw emotions despite the high status we give them because they were written about in the Bible. Put yourself in Abraham’s sandals and imagine his grief and burden of losing his wife of 75 years. Initially he wouldn’t be able to continue, but as he releases her to the Lord, he lifts his burden. That kind of grief is only worked out by time and calling out to the Lord.
Perhaps you know someone who is grieving over a loved on now. Give that person space and let them grieve. No cliches or fancy words. Abraham went through that process in his culture, so should we.
“I’m sorry for your loss” is more than sufficient.
Then you pray for the person.