17 So if you consider me a partner, welcome him as you would welcome me. 18 If he has done you any wrong or owes you anything, charge it to me. 19 I, Paul, am writing this with my own hand. I will pay it back—not to mention that you owe me your very self. 20 I do wish, brother, that I may have some benefit from you in the Lord; refresh my heart in Christ. 21 Confident of your obedience, I write to you, knowing that you will do even more than I ask. Philemon 17-21
Obviously Paul was very serious about Philemon accepting Onesimus as a brother. He put it on a personal level and said that Philemon owed this favor to Paul, then he toned it down. It was obviously very important to Paul.
Do you have someone you’re fighting for as well, someone so close that any little thing that happens in the negative hurts you too? We all do to one degree or another. Not only do we defend this person against other people, we bring our burdens to God about this person. Only He can heal. Only He can truly refresh the spirit. Only He can change the heart of the wayward soul. Only He knows you and your defendee better than we know ourselves.