When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, “Give me children, or I’ll die!”
2 Jacob became angry with her and said, “Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?”
3 Then she said, “Here is Bilhah, my servant. Sleep with her so that she can bear children for me and I too can build a family through her.”
4 So she gave him her servant Bilhah as a wife. Jacob slept with her, 5 and she became pregnant and bore him a son. 6 Then Rachel said, “God has vindicated me; he has listened to my plea and given me a son.” Because of this she named him Dan. Genesis 30:1-6
Recall that Rachel’s grandmother-in-law, Sarah, did the same exact thing with her servant. Rather than wait and trust God, she took it upon herself to force her husband to sleep with her servant. Of course we know it won’t go well with her, but she didn’t learn from Sarah’s mistakes.
Jacob was right in what he said. He had no control over Rachel’s fertility, but he was wrong to sleep with someone other than his wife.
What a complete mess!
But like all messes we make, God certainly knows the way out and the way forward. As mentioned before, it’s going to get much worse before it gets better because they’re still not done tinkering with the will of God.
It’s a lack of trust, a sense of pride, or a combination of the two that compels us to act like we do. But can and does pick up the pieces. That goes for Rachel and before her Sarah. And it also goes for you and me.