I will be glad and rejoice in your love,
for you saw my affliction
and knew the anguish of my soul.
You have not given me into the hands of the enemy
but have set my feet in a spacious place. Psalm 31:7-8
Only the Lord truly knows the anguish of your soul. While we certainly experience that anguish, only He knows why and how to cure it. It’s a fairly liberating thought if you think about it.
Occasionally you can tell when other people are in anguish. When we pray that God would prepare someone’s heart, this is often the answer to that prayer though we don’t always recognize it as such.
Look for these opportunities to minister. No need to “preach” because the spirit is already moving, but a kind word at just the right time will go a long way (Proverbs 15:23).
I think we would take advantage of these times if we recognized them in time.