Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. Proverbs 27:6
Friends can hurt you without even knowing it. They can and should be able to say things to you that no one else will be able to. Why? Because unless they have a bitter spirit against you, they will tell you things about yourself that will initially hurt but in the long run is helpful.
Case in point: I was chatting with someone and for some reason I mentioned that I can be harsh at times. Without missing a beat, the person agreed. At the time I didn’t think much of it, though it stopped me in my tracks for a second. Within a month two similar incidents occurred, and the people (both friends) agreed. It was then that I had to sit down and analyze what I had been saying (or how I was saying it) to make these people think that way. I could have made all sorts of excuses but I didn’t. I took the unsolicited “advice” for what it was worth: advice. Had it come from someone other than a friend I would have immediately rejected it.
It’s not often that we get to see such glimpses of our lives, but when we do we should pay close attention for it helps us to grow in our faith.