15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
18 “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
19 “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:15-20
If you’ve ever confronted someone about their sin, you know how difficult it is – or should be. In other words, you shouldn’t get any glee out of the action. You also know that your life had better be in order first lest the finger is turned back on you accusing you of some egregious sin (not a prerequisite but you can do it with a free conscience. No one likes to be confronted about their ways – no one.
But God’s plan for restoration is sound: private, semi-public/semi-private, and then public.
Normally the grievance will not make it to the public sphere, unless, of course, that someone didn’t follow this plan. If it gets to the public, the person will probably have left the church being too embarrassed to remain.
That’s why it’s important to keep short accounts with God, examining your life frequently to make sure there is nothing in your life to hinder your relationship with God. God will impress upon your heart about things you’ve said or done.
It’s also why it’s important to listen to those promptings or uneasiness when you go before God. He will lead you in the right path to restoration no matter how small.
God is faithful.