The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1

Up until now the author of Proverbs has spoken to men or to the masses. Now he addresses the prudent or the wise woman. The words in this verse seem obvious, but many women do not heed its wise counsel.

“Building a house” means making it a home, a place that a husband and kids enjoy coming home to. Of course it won’t be perfect but there is peace and security in the home. It’s a safe place to “let your hair down” so to speak. It means making family traditions, the little things really.

In contrast to that is the woman who tears that house down with those same hands. There is strife and chaos and confusion and insecurity all around. Bickering and complaining abound. By her attitudes and actions, the foolish woman is tearing her house down.

Men, pray for your wives. You know the challenges they face and can help them with your prayers. Be kind to them and do not be harsh. If she’s done a great job, let her know.

Ladies, aspire to be the “wise woman” in the verse. You already know that there are innumerable demands placed on you by society. Give them over to the Lord. Allow Him to help you prioritize them and make them happen in a timely manner.

And Ladies, don’t be so hard on yourself.